Dating a guy in the army
If you are strong enough to deal with all this, then by all means be with him and love him.Editor’s Note: This article originally appeared at Cellar Door, the personal blog of Gabrielle Puglia. You need to understand that the military is a brotherhood.Yet military life is tough and demanding for loved ones as well as those who enlist.Whether your high school sweetheart has just joined up or you recently met a soldier who swept you off your feet, take a hard look at the reality behind the romantic image.You also must remember the fact he can be called away to go at anytime to go anywhere for any length of time and possibly may not come back.Being wounded to the point of having no arms and legs is a possibility, heaven forbid that happens to him, but he knows that grave wounding and/or death are possibilites of serving and unfortunately goes with the territory.Your boyfriend might be in love with you, but he is married to the Army.Work schedules and leave time are always at the discretion of his superiors and are subject to change at any time.
Reactions range from: ' He'll cheat, they all do', ' He'll go postal one day and try to kill you because it's not easy to go from Kill Everyone to Kill No one' and most offensively: ' Good move, Kate.There have been a few articles about the pros and cons of dating the Generation Y military man, and while some of them are better reads than others, I felt the need to weigh in. Military men may never have closer relationships than those they made in the military.This is based solely on the experiences of my veteran friends, as well as my own with a past paramour. The military teaches service members to trust their unit, and few others. If he comes to you with a problem, chances are he’ll talk about it until he no longer wants to and then go into lockdown. That is not a good thing or a bad thing, that is just a matter of fact and something you need to understand. Military men are used to their band of brothers, and are bred to be loyal and protective. Some branches of the military (I’m looking at you, Marines) have a feeling of superiority over others.This list is not simply a composition of pros or cons, but rather an overview of what dating a service member active duty or veteran — is like. They are meant to be extremely close with this group of people and everyone else is simply on a need-to-know basis. It is not a competition between his military friends and you; they are people who shared a very intimate part of his life, and you should want to be close with them, too. He will love you fiercely and be the most faithful companion, if you can promise the same. Granted, that is earned due to the nature of their work and how much they put on the line.As the significant other, you will not get more details than necessary on anything unless you poke and prod. Related: The unconventional relationship is the norm in the military. However, in the civilian world, or in a relationship, it may be a little hard to deal with. Especially if he is coming from a higher rank, it may be increasingly difficult for him to “fall in line” with civilian life. Not every soldier comes home with post-traumatic stress.